I may have learned this the hard way in my pursuit to find happiness, true love and peace. The first time someone used the word validate, actually got me pissed, got me searching for reasons and finally questioning every thing my worth. I vowed never to replace the synonym “approval” with “Validate” in my speech. Funny as it seems, I made a conscious effort to redirect my thinking…
I believe we have all had our moments where we have entertained certain thoughts and ideas like;
“If I could try to impress he/she the more, I could be loved”
“If I could tone down just a little bit, I could be accepted and I could even fit in perfectly”
Or, “If I could do things a little more carefully, walk on eggshells, not stepping on toes, I may not be judged”
All to seek the validation from Men, especially if they are important to us. We later come to realize that our best efforts may be appreciated like we wanted and that, could be very devastating.
Actually, trying to put confidence in man, trying to seek their validation, attention and approval all results in devastation. At least I have come to realise it’s always a dead-end. It leaves you broken, confused and troubled than you were.
In Jeremiah 17:5.
Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD.
We also know that blessed are those who trust in the Lord and they have made their Lord their hope and confidence.
Once we solely seek validation from any man at all, then we may need to rethink and redirect our minds and focus to God. He is the only one who validates, and he is the God that sees you so when others don’t, it’s okay. No matter who they are.
Remember, people are not your Creator! And whatever validation you are trying to seek from a person, know and understand it’s a fickle. It is what it is.
Listen, I, you, we, have a God who loves me, you, us deeply, accepts us totally and he is willing to hold your hands and go with you every step of the way. You are such a big deal to him and he cares about you so deeply more than you will ever know, more than you will ever comprehend.
I love the fact that God will NEVER change his mind about us. He is the only one who gives our sense of support and Validation!
We will find our Peace, Love, Worth, Approval and any other thing we are looking for from God.
I am thankful and overwhelmed today because I have had the most readers from these countries: Ghana, United States, Canada, South Africa, United Kingdom, Spain and Nigeria.
To all my readers across the world,you are the reason I grab my phone to type my thoughts on this blog even when I have lost interest in everything. Being as integral part of this journey in my blogging experience, I love that you have still stuck with me.
If you missed the first part of this story, please have a good read before enjoying this one. Here you go🖕
After resigning, in this critical period (Covid-19), I mean who is still hiring now? The system itself in the country is whack! This is what happened after kissing my Job good-bye!
My family could sense my frustration and uneasiness. After some few days, I regained strength and started a part-time work, took some online courses, did some volunteering work, attended useful programs, I kept applying to other governmental sectors once I got to know there is a vacancy; gave time to my novels and I didn’t forget to keep hope alive. Through this situation, I had some opportunities and I met some new people. It was worth it.
But of course, I didn’t forget the one thing I was praying for: my pending appointment letter. I mostly called to follow-up on it and the feedback from the office wasn’t very encouraging.
There were days, I didn’t feel like telling God anything and I just wanted to be left alone in my room. A friend who has always been with me throughout this painful moment of my life reminded me of the Parable of the wicked Judge and the persistent Widow. I took time to reflect on the story and prayed.
It’s normal to lose hope, cry and be perturbed. It is normal to go through the day without feeling hungry if you were in my situation. The adventure took me by surprise and it hit me so hard! However, I grew stronger.
I told God to let his favor be with me.
I told him about my situation even though he knew it.
I told God my frustrations and how impatient I was.
I told him I wanted to tell this testimony and to inspire others with my story.
I told him I was tired and I didn’t have the strength to continue. He should just grant me a miracle!
All my prayers and thanks turned into this hymn. I actually sung when I received a call that early morning.
You are my strength when I am weak You are the treasure that I seek You are my all in all Seeking You as a precious jewel Lord to give up I’d be a fool You are my all in all
Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name
Taking my sin my cross my shame Rising again I bless your name You are my all in all When I fall down you pick me up When I am dry You fill my cup You are my all in all
Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name
Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name
Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name Jesus Lamb of God worthy is Your name Worthy is Your name Worthy is Your name
I remembered what my mentor at Accra Academy Campus told me when I went there to ask for help. She prayed with me in the office, sung and assured me:
“Listen, you are loved. Man doesn’t have your back in this situation. This is just a test of faith! You will get a place even in this critical period“
I went back there and took what belonged to me😩. I was beamed with smiles and prayed! I Thanked God for not giving up on me.
I actually came back home and wept. My mum couldn’t hold back her tears. You know days ago, I was always scrolling through my contacts, asking myself:
“Who does this person know?”
“Can he or she be of help to me?”
Sometimes, my calls were missed, they never called back, other times, the received calls turned into: “Linda, may I call back? I’m kind of busy now” they weren’t going to call back either. I became a nuisance to people. I gave up calling or texting. I remembered what the scripture said in Jeremiah 29( For I know the plans I have for you….) You know when humans forget about us, when the going gets tough. I decided not to call again. To relax and let God’s will be done in this situation!
I’m a living testimony. Seriously this is my testimony! God didn’t forget about my situation. He heard my prayers. He never fails us.
I finally got a better place. This particular one got me stunned. This is what I deserve!!
Grateful to all who helped me during this difficult time: Mummy, Aunty C, Aunty Mercy, B.B Thompson, Elixagyare, Seyram, Harrison (State House), Lucy, Aunty Patricia and Aunty Pearl 💕. And to you who knew of my story and prayed for God’s intervention, I am grateful. Bless you.
They spoke against God, saying, ‘Can God spread a table in the desert? When he struck the rock, water gushed out, and streams flowed abundantly. But can he also give us food? Can he supply meat for his people?Psalm 78:19-20
The story of a woman with no child stuck me hard even when she had prayed for years and there was nothing. Days later,she turned her hall into a baby room and continued steadfastly in earnest prayer. Just like the widow in 1 Kings 7, her sorrows was turned into Joy. She couldn’t hold back her tears when the doctor told her the good news!
From our lips to God’s ears only: whatever we ask will be delivered to us and whatever we have lost will be restored to us. This is the kind of prayer I muttered as I quit my Job and tasked myself not to sit home but find something more lucrative to do.
I had a government appointment right after quitting my job. Now the battle between myself and this “unknown imp” (if I should even refer to it like that) came to cloud my plans. Oh I had plans! Trust me they were very good and insightful ones. But as the saying goes “Man proposes and God disposes”
We were asked to submit our letters and other documents at the Regional Office as stated in the appointment letter. But like the ambitious me who didn’t want to waste any more time because I felt this is a very good sign from God, I got to the Regional Office rather earlier than the usual time. I submitted all documents and proceeded to look for my district to do same. Now, this came to me as a “blow in my face” when
1. I had the wrong district and found the right one.
2. Went to my new place of posting only to be told there was no vacancy ( a government appointment too???). I was confused about the whole situation.
3. Looking for other alternatives quickly. Going back to where I had my internship programme and attachment programme just to ask if I could request for an assurance letter so I could be posted to work there. Another blow to my face when I was told, “We don’t do such things any more” I was devastated! 😩
4. Going back to my posting and getting a letter of re-posting and going back to the Regional Office again! 😂 (Ei, now I was just thinking- is it God’s way of taking me out of a situation?). During this time, I called all the people I knew who could be of help to me. I contacted hundreds of people whom could probably lead me to someone to at least give me a new place I could work.
Then I learned something new from this experience:
People (even family members) will forget you in your nothingness.
They will never get back to you any time soon.
Humans will never ask “How did it go?
“Was it successful?”
They will say, ” I will pray for you” and I tell you what, they will forget to do so.
Trust me, It’s human nature! I wasn’t perturbed at all. Do you know why? I always woke up with a mindset of getting this Job. In my heart of hearts, I knew a testimony will present itself soon!
Guess what, none got back to me. Those who did, probably got fed up already with my situation. (I lost hope). I prayed, I slept on an empty stomach, I asked God questions, mum was worried, I was just wondering- What is the problem with our system in this Country?? 🙄
This was the least! the next blow was going back again in search for another place of re-posting. Then lo, I found a place. (I never liked the place or didn’t want to think of myself getting to work there). A begger with a choice! I just didn’t want to settle for less! I have always wanted the best for myself and be challenged in whatever I found myself doing. I was however reluctant to submit my documents for them to finish up with the process so I can at least take a break from this adventure!
I remember shedding tears at the entrance of the Regional Office on Monday 25th January after the Registrar told me she couldn’t find the documents I presented to her to be re-posted!
It started off with a pandemic and a lot of lives were lost. Things became worse as each day passes and for someone who is a firm believer of Christ, faith and trust that each day will be better, I always wake up with a new kind of energy not knowing what tomorrow holds.
2020, has been rancid, distasteful and loathsome to us as a country- the world has experienced horrid moments. With many dying, places gutted with fire, flood inundated some places, Jobs coming to a standstill, schools closing down and a lot is still happening as at now.
Don’t even ask how it went for me because I also had my share of the year in different ways. Some days were good, bad, and exciting. Well, I guess that is how life is- should be. It toughens us to strive for more and to become better than before. There were times I didn’t feel like stepping out. I was just scared of the next thing that will happen. I didn’t want to take a chance or a risk of doing something. What was there to live for? I mostly asked myself.
1. From being accused falsely by a senior colleague at work and coming out of it
2. From insinuations made and being vilified
3. From sacrificing sleep to impacting skills and knowledge
4. From losing some friends and family and escaping a road accident.
5. From having an amazing adventure and putting my life in a state of jeopardy
6. To making people happy and making an impact in my own little way.
7. To achieving excellence.
8. Gaining insight and more.
My utmost prayer is that the new year will be better for all of us. It will come with graceful memories and life changing experiences. Just like my Daily Devotional guide teaches today:
“The Lord shall guide thee” Not an angel, but Jehovah shall guide thee. He said he would not go through the wilderness before his people, an angel should go before them to lead them in the way; but Moses said, “If thy presence go not with me, carry us not up hence” Christian, God has not left you in your earthly pilgrimage to an angel’s guidance: he himself leads the van. You may not see the cloudy, fiery pillar, but Jehovah will never forsake you. Notice the word shall—“The Lord shall guide thee” How certain this makes it! How sure it is that God will not forsake us! His precious “shalls” and “wills” are better than men’s oaths “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee” Then observe the adverb continually. We are not merely to be guided sometimes, but we are to have a perpetual monitor.
Believer in Christ, let’s us have faith and trust 2021 will bring Joy and gladness to our hearts. May we find:
jobs and gratification in whatever capacity we are.
content in whatever we receive and strive to achieve more.
grace and blessings in all spheres of our lives.
our spouses and may God lead us to them in his own time.
grow and experience newness in all we set out to do.
study and show ourselves as workmen who need not to be ashamed of the Gospel of Christ.
May 2021 be gleeful! Amen! 👯❤️ Start the year with GLADSOME!!!
For the past five months, this scripture text and the topic “Revival”, has been the theme for spiritual growth. In this tall and elegant building is filled with people who are here on weekdays and on Sundays listening with keen interest to Evey Preacher who mounts the stage to talk about “Revival”. I would want to believe that this message, if not for all specific topics has pierced through hearts and people have given thoughts about it.
When approaching 2 Chronicles 7:14, one must first consider the immediate context. After Solomon dedicated the temple, the Lord appeared to him and gave him some warnings and reassurances. “The Lord appeared to him at night and said: ‘I have heard your prayer and have chosen this place for myself as a temple for sacrifices.’ When I shut up the heavens so that there is no rain, or command locusts to devour the land or send a plague among my people, if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.”
What is Revival?
Revival refers to a spiritual reawakening from a state of dormancy or stagnation in the life of a believer.
The question I keep asking is;
Are we revived? What shows we have gone through this revival period? How’s our prayer life? When last did we go for evangelism? How’s our Bible study and quiet time?
If what I was some months ago or a year ago is better than what I am now, then I need a revival. The scripture says, “Examine yourselves to see whether you are in faith…”(2 Corinthains 13:5). I believe this is the time for genuine examination of our walk with God. We must not be like the church in Laodicea in Revelations 3:14-19. They thought they were rich and doing well but God was not satisfied with them. He said they were poor and miserable.
Once, I had to remind a friend:”Do you know the Bible clearly speaks about Back-biting and Gossiping? To him, these are normal of humans to do and sees no reason why one should be perturbed about it.
I know we fall short of these little little sins… But hey, it’s time we become conscious of certain things and put a stop to them.
Can we keep the fire Burning? It may seem difficult but, remember Judgement awaits us all… Let’s be conscious of our iniquities and Yearn to do more for God.