I remember vividly telling this hollow heart of mine never to awaken This grotesque of emotions I struggle to decipher Here I am now reliving it and throwing tantrums at Love The only essence my heart still beats for you
How I wish I could tell this heart to stop Did love ask me to make myself a fool? Or mine wasn’t enough to debunk the cliche of wise men about love? Did love ask me to day-dream about the impossible To leave my heart as a remnant of questions whose answers you have in store?
We’ve been at this for far too long Can you just tell me what my itching ears need to know already You can’t deny you have the left piece Of our right to peace in the heart
I feel starved When you touched me I felt alive and a woman I felt alive and yours I felt alive and wished it was forever in your arms However, love thrives on wills rather than on wishes.
You’re the reason I update my timeline with strange insignificant messages I wouldn’t budge to read on a regular day You’re the heavy traffic on a Monday morning, you piss me off a lot. Yet I still wonder the patience I get just to hold on
On Tuesdays at prayer meetings, when my eyes are closed, I sense your presence and your image pops up a lot. You make me break the very first and second commandments of God I know He’s a jealous God but I can’t help it
You’re the laughter at a weak joke I have with my girlfriends every Wednesday evenings You brighten my day. You’re my shade on a rainy day, you have my back dry. You’re the bank alert on a bad day, you lit my soul You do
Please do not hold back from me the very support I need for life. It may sound unrealistic to you But even if I could survive a day without you I want to still live it with you Let’s make it sound realistic I’m tired of imaginations and poetic license I’m tired of rhyming words that have no answers.
Just look me straight in the eye Stand before pupils who can’t lie about the light of love you shine on me Sometimes all I want to do is lay next to you And listen to the beat of your heart I just want to close my eyes And fall asleep in your arms whenever I find it hard sleeping I just want to feel you inside me and forget about the world and its cares
Even if you couldn’t give me all that my heart seeks I pray thee grant thy maiden with the sanity of a heart to love again
Pain is when you see your talkative teacher and friend lose his ability to speak.
Pain is when you see tears in your eyes because he won’t come back.
Pain is when you do not recognize that tall and muscular friend
Because an illness has changed him into someone you do not recognize.
Pain is when your heart breaks daily because Francis Van-Orgle has slipped away without saying goodbye to us.
10 years…still fresh in our mind. Keep Resting Well ☺️. Till we meet again.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-14But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.
There is nothing like physical pain to drive you to your knees in prayer. Time after time, I cried out to God for a sign about decisions that I take in life. Even as daily prayer, I grew weary in going to God about the same thing day in and day out.
One of the hardest challenges of the Christian walk is waiting for God to answer our prayers when we urgently need him to intervene in a circumstance that is breaking our heart, testing our faith, and robbing us of peace and joy. I have been on my knees many times with my Bible in hand, tearfully reminding God of my request.
Coincidentally, I received a text message today from a friend who also prayed for her life partner and apparently, things didn’t go in her favor. I can’t really relate to what she is feeling now. In a conversation with her about the whole situation shows that she is tired about praying for the same thing and has finally given up on my long thesis. To her, an encouragement is not what she needs now. All she said was “Akosua, I’m done with this and tired about praying for the same damn thing”
I just had to remind her and myself of this scripture text:
Yet those who wait for the LORD will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary. —Isaiah 40:31
Of course, compared to the suffering in many parts of this broken world, her pain is nothing, my long overdue answers are nothing, because certainly can’t imagine what or how people are suffering and experiencing anguish in so many ways. Daily, I thank him for strength to get through the day and for food on my table. It is not as if I have it all. My heart is often broken by stories of friends who complain of issues they are facing; financial crisis, health, unfailed Job search, marital issues, etc. These are problems that only God can solve and he is calling us to pray without ceasing, because prayer is our greatest weapon against the powers and principalities of this world — that Paul talks about in Ephesians 6:12 — which are at the root of today’s suffering.
Sometimes prayers take time to fully materialize. As Psalm 40 says, sometimes we have to wait for God’s timing, One of the greatest challenges we face as Christians is continuing to believe for a miracle when all indications are “it just ain’t happening.”
So, if you are tired about praying for the same thing, as you continue crying out to the Lord, here are a few suggestions that have helped me continue to expect my miracle even when all God seems to be saying is “wait.”
Take time to remember how much God loves you and why you are still alive and living. I keep saying, he is not done with me yet and I haven’t fufilled his purpose yet, so I can’t give up praying. I will continue to pray and hope till something happens. In Matthew 7:9-11, we read that God wants to give us good things. So, we can be confident when we pray that God hears us and wants good things for us, those we love, and for all his creation.
Do you still remember the things you prayed for in the past? So my bestie has been down because a failed job search and depression sometimes gets in the way. He called this morning and Viola! Good news… “Lilly, I have been called for an interview tomorrow”
Faith is a living expression that grows as we dare to put it into action. So, if we take time to remember all the miraculous ways he has answered our prayers in the past, we will find new courage and hope for the future — and our faith will grow.
Fasting and praying will help us tell others of our testimonies. I take a week in every month and I plan to fast and pray for something. last year, this idea came in mind and it really did help me. My utmost hope and prayer is that God will help me be a woman of prayer and inspire other with my way of living. Every situation imaginable has an applicable promise in the Bible. Hebrews 4:12 tells us that the Word of God is alive and active, so let God’s own words be your argument before his Throne of Grace.
Many a time, we don’t know what to prayer for. One of my greatest frustrations when I pray is that, while I can identify the problem, I have no idea how to fix it. So, I am uncertain how to pray. That is when I claim Romans 8:26 which says, “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans” (NIV). God doesn’t need our words to know our hearts, and he is faithful to answer even our unspoken requests. I usually get sticker notes and write scripture text on them, paste it on my wall close to my bed side to remind me of the task ahead in being persistent in my walk with God.
First lap of the Lockdown Challenge ends today! I’m thrilled we did this together and i must say i enjoyed every bit of the challenge. Some days were unplanned and some were scheduled.
You should see me in person Lol… No o i haven’t gained weight. Lol… There were days i had to go to bed without food. I definately did not skip breakfast. Lunch and supper were sometimes missed. I sort to water, veggies and fruits only. I also love the Consistency in putting up a write-up for my readers everyday! The ideas were definately from God. He is the best poet who wrote me.
To my readers who have been supportive and constant readers, guys i appreaciate and love you all. I can’t mention names…but you know yourselves. Keep reading more on poetessakosua.wordpress.com
Today is sunday!!!! As usual, let’s get into Matters of the ❤Heart.
What is your view or Take on this!
Below are some of the views from our ardent readers.
Kwesi:Good evening Akosua. It’s not exactly the case. Many of them change. Marriage is quite different and it presents different situations not known in dating We generally respond differently in marriage, but some degree of those habits may find its way subtly into marriage I doubt if they’re hidden oo. Sometimes we either don’t see clearly or don’t pay enough attention to them For instance some Akosua bi that I know won’t give you her Kenkey some. Like joke, like joke. She won’t even give you her drink some. Don’t be surprised if she holds back things in marriage, even when you need them badly as a husband. Me I didn’t say anything oo
Kwame: It depends. When you marry, you’ll see for yourself. A lot are hidden. Just be ready 😃😂. Some habits come in later after you are married. That was never shown by either parties during the ‘dating’ phase.
Ace:Most true. Or could change.
Kwame 2: I agree on it And it totally depends on the number of years dated. But some people actually act differently in Borge years.
Jul: Human beings don’t change so there is no way habits and attitude will change☺️
May:Its most at times likely to he same or worse than it use to be There is only 0.1% chances where attitudes and habits changes to be positive wen one gets married.
Dave:That’s true Habits are basically learned patterns and they aren’t easy to get rid of. And with attitudes staying with someone usually shapes your attitude and relationship with them so yeah. These two are likely to carry over into the early stages of marriage.
Fred:Yeah 94% possibility.
Dorkie❤: Depends on the parties involved…if you want to carry it to marriage, you will Personally, I think it’s a conscious effort. On the contrary, the individual can decide to stop that habit or attitude if it’s not pleasant to the other. After all, these are learned and can be unlearned.
Jackline: I support the statement. Especially on the part of the ladies, they’d still require the attention given them during dating. With regards to habits, if you call your partner by a pet name during dating and courtship, there’s no doubt that the pet name will be taken to the marital home. On the other hand, when your guy pampers, helps, gives you attention and talks to you in a lovely manner, he takes that sweet care to the marital home too. Again, if you’re gf prefers home made food to fast food, that is taken to the marital home too; nonetheless, if your gf prefers fast food to home made food, that too is taken to the marital home.
In brief, I support the statement that we transfer our dating and courtship habits to the marital home. There’s a saying in my language which means; you can’t stop what you’re used to and this is true about habits and attitude. It hardly, takes a lot to do away with them. My take.
Albert: I think it won’t be a problem, because by that time, they would be used to such attitudes and know how to tackle them. It helps the other partner in some sense….Maybe one sacrificed and developed a new habit just to make the other feel comfortable.
Eric:The choice of spouse is among the most important personal decisions most people ever make. While we can’t see into our romantic futures, the science of relationships does offer insight into the decision process.Exploring these findings can help suggest when the time is right, what partners should know in advance, what matters most in weighing the decision, and why we are drawn to the type of person we might spend the rest of our life with. But whether or not marriage makes sense ultimately depends on the characteristics of the individuals it would formally unite. Habit and attitudes should not be established during dating into marriage. Because after marriage things can change Successful dating is not a destination, but rather it is a journey. This journey can either continue as marriage or friendship. God will bring the right person into your life at the right time. Always believe that! If they are not there, God isn’t finished yet.
Cassey:with me saying not all habits. Some people change certain habit after marriage.
Okyere:Lynn, attitudes change as we grow. So a person portray a character today and changes tomorrow. Let me give you an example *A Lady in a relationship may work very hard to put a man’s home in order to prove that she is a married material. *A man, likewise, will go extral mile to provide for a Lady to prove (or if you like to show) that he is responsible and cares. But immediately they get married, then they begin to show their true colours. Lynn dear, we’re living in a pretentious world. A lot of people are living fake lifestyles, pretending to be who they are not.So when they finally settle down, then reality sets in. Then follows disappointment and regret.. However, there are few people who are genuine in character. Regrettably, such people normally do not meet good people. It’s very possible Lynn. But remember, trust once lost, is very difficult to regain. You can change only if your partner accepts you with your flaws. Sometimes before you start to reform, the marriage has already collapse. What I’m trying to say is that as much as possible, let people love you for who you really are. Because if you pretend to be who you are not with the aim of getting someone to love you, it’s very disastrous. People can go to extent of borrowing cars, money, clothes, accessories, etc, just to impress a partner. It’s serious oo dear If you know what people do for love errr. … So Lynn, genuine attitudes carried over into marriages is commendable. But I the attitude is bad or fake, then I will advice that the person changes before they tide the not. However, if you really love your partner, accept him or her with his/her flaws and help reform the person Time changes everything. With the right attitude, advice, love, guidance and encouragement, you can change a person. Lynn, sometimes err, the good in you could change somebody without your notice 😃😃😃I’m not a counsellor
Andy:Individual differences oooo Some marry n grow up n some marry and still be in dating style.
Interesting views from our readers. What do you also think of the above statement? Do you agree or disagree?
Let’s hear your views in the comment box below.. Have a good read of our readers and share your thoughts too.
First lap over!!💥💥💥 We did it!
As usual, please stay home! Take precautionary measures serious! Do check up on family and friends online 😍
The most simple things can make my day. Take for instance, a bottle of Red wine (non- alcoholic) please… and play me one of my favourite Soul or Rhythm and Blue (R&B) songs from the 1990’s.
Now, before i pen down a piece, my spirit should already be acclimatize to the environment that will bring out the flow of words…if not, i won’t gain that gratification i need. In so doing, MUSIC! Yes, MUSIC helps me. Basically, get all the “Boyz II Men, Lionel Richie, Barry White, Sam Cooke, Luther Vandross, Smokery, Robinson, Ray Charles, and my all time favourite! “Seal”😄
Don’t get me wrong, i love Gospel too.. Joe Mettle has won my heart over the years. When my muse haunts me to write, serenity and any Soul music bring out the spark!
Call me “Old School” “Colo” or whatever primitive name you would want to. But there is an undeniably fact and that is, Songs from the 1990’s are still the best and they still sound fresh.
Henry Olusegun Adeola Samuel known professionally as Seal, is a British musician, singer, and songwriter. He has sold over 20 million records worldwide, with his first international hit song, “Crazy“, released in 1991; his most celebrated song, “Kiss from a Rose“, was released in 1994. – Wikipedia.
The lyrics are not my main focus but his voice and the modulation in which he does it. He sings with passion. The music lovers will probably get a good description for Seal’s songs. It gets me you know…😁😁😁😁 and still does.
What is your all time favourite song? Tell me in the comment box and let’s have a chat.
I expected an extension to happen but i really thought there was going to be a break or two for us to move around freely. Yesterday, In Ghana, it was expected. Hearing the official announcement from the President himself made me realize the situation has really gone bad.
Now, i am starting to think the year 2020 came with it’s own style- one that is different from the years we’ve seen and experienced.
I would like to share something i read today. Kindly meditate on these two scriptures and pray for Ghana and the world too.
TEXTS FOR MEDITATION AND PRAYERS
I KINGS 18:1-46; DEUT. 7:1-7
Elijah’s Message to Ahab
18 After many days the word of the Lord came to Elijah, in the third year of the drought, saying, “Go, present yourself to Ahab; I will send rain on the earth.” 2 So Elijah went to present himself to Ahab. The famine was severe in Samaria. 3 Ahab summoned Obadiah, who was in charge of the palace. (Now Obadiah revered the Lord greatly; 4 when Jezebel was killing off the prophets of the Lord, Obadiah took a hundred prophets, hid them fifty to a cave, and provided them with bread and water.) 5 Then Ahab said to Obadiah, “Go through the land to all the springs of water and to all the wadis; perhaps we may find grass to keep the horses and mules alive, and not lose some of the animals.” 6 So they divided the land between them to pass through it; Ahab went in one direction by himself, and Obadiah went in another direction by himself.
7 As Obadiah was on the way, Elijah met him; Obadiah recognized him, fell on his face, and said, “Is it you, my lord Elijah?” 8 He answered him, “It is I. Go, tell your lord that Elijah is here.” 9 And he said, “How have I sinned, that you would hand your servant over to Ahab, to kill me? 10 As the Lord your God lives, there is no nation or kingdom to which my lord has not sent to seek you; and when they would say, ‘He is not here,’ he would require an oath of the kingdom or nation, that they had not found you. 11 But now you say, ‘Go, tell your lord that Elijah is here.’ 12 As soon as I have gone from you, the spirit of the Lord will carry you I know not where; so, when I come and tell Ahab and he cannot find you, he will kill me, although I your servant have revered the Lord from my youth. 13 Has it not been told my lord what I did when Jezebel killed the prophets of the Lord, how I hid a hundred of the Lord’s prophets fifty to a cave, and provided them with bread and water? 14 Yet now you say, ‘Go, tell your lord that Elijah is here’; he will surely kill me.” 15 Elijah said, “As the Lord of hosts lives, before whom I stand, I will surely show myself to him today.” 16 So Obadiah went to meet Ahab, and told him; and Ahab went to meet Elijah.
17 When Ahab saw Elijah, Ahab said to him, “Is it you, you troubler of Israel?” 18 He answered, “I have not troubled Israel; but you have, and your father’s house, because you have forsaken the commandments of the Lord and followed the Baals. 19 Now therefore have all Israel assemble for me at Mount Carmel, with the four hundred fifty prophets of Baal and the four hundred prophets of Asherah, who eat at Jezebel’s table.”
Elijah’s Triumph over the Priests of Baal
20 So Ahab sent to all the Israelites, and assembled the prophets at Mount Carmel. 21 Elijah then came near to all the people, and said, “How long will you go limping with two different opinions? If the Lord is God, follow him; but if Baal, then follow him.” The people did not answer him a word. 22 Then Elijah said to the people, “I, even I only, am left a prophet of the Lord; but Baal’s prophets number four hundredfifty. 23 Let two bulls be given to us; let them choose one bull for themselves, cut it in pieces, and lay it on the wood, but put no fire to it; I will prepare the other bull and lay it on the wood, but put no fire to it. 24 Then you call on the name of your god and I will call on the name of the Lord; the god who answers by fire is indeed God.” All the people answered, “Well spoken!” 25 Then Elijah said to the prophets of Baal, “Choose for yourselves one bull and prepare it first, for you are many; then call on the name of your god, but put no fire to it.” 26 So they took the bull that was given them, prepared it, and called on the name of Baal from morning until noon, crying, “O Baal, answer us!” But there was no voice, and no answer. They limped about the altar that they had made. 27 At noon Elijah mocked them, saying, “Cry aloud! Surely he is a god; either he is meditating, or he has wandered away, or he is on a journey, or perhaps he is asleep and must be awakened.” 28 Then they cried aloud and, as was their custom, they cut themselves with swords and lances until the blood gushed out over them. 29 As midday passed, they raved on until the time of the offering of the oblation, but there was no voice, no answer, and no response.
30 Then Elijah said to all the people, “Come closer to me”; and all the people came closer to him. First he repaired the altar of the Lord that had been thrown down; 31 Elijah took twelve stones, according to the number of the tribes of the sons of Jacob, to whom the word of the Lord came, saying, “Israel shall be your name”; 32 with the stoneshe built an altar in the name of the Lord. Then he made a trench around the altar, large enough to contain two measures of seed. 33 Next he put the wood in order, cut the bull in pieces, and laid it on the wood. He said, “Fill four jars with water and pour it on the burnt offeringand on the wood.” 34 Then he said, “Do it a second time”; and they did it a second time. Again he said, “Do it a third time”; and they did it a third time, 35 so that the water ran all around the altar, and filled the trench also with water.
36 At the time of the offering of the oblation, the prophet Elijah came near and said, “O Lord, God of Abraham, Isaac, and Israel, let it be known this day that you are God in Israel, that I am your servant, and that I have done all these things at your bidding. 37 Answer me, O Lord, answer me, so that this people may know that you, O Lord, are God, and that you have turned their hearts back.” 38 Then the fire of the Lord fell and consumed the burnt offering, the wood, the stones, and the dust, and even licked up the water that was in the trench. 39 When all the people saw it, they fell on their faces and said, “The Lord indeed is God; the Lord indeed is God.” 40 Elijah said to them, “Seize the prophets of Baal; do not let one of them escape.” Then they seized them; and Elijah brought them down to the Wadi Kishon, and killed them there.
The Drought Ends
41 Elijah said to Ahab, “Go up, eat and drink; for there is a sound of rushing rain.” 42 So Ahab went up to eat and to drink. Elijah went up to the top of Carmel; there he bowed himself down upon the earth and put his face between his knees. 43 He said to his servant, “Go up now, look toward the sea.” He went up and looked, and said, “There is nothing.” Then he said, “Go again seven times.” 44 At the seventh time he said, “Look, a little cloud no bigger than a person’s hand is rising out of the sea.” Then he said, “Go say to Ahab, ‘Harness your chariot and go down before the rain stops you.’” 45 In a little while the heavens grew black with clouds and wind; there was a heavy rain. Ahab rodeoff and went to Jezreel. 46 But the hand of the Lord was on Elijah; he girded up his loins and ran in front of Ahab to the entrance of Jezreel.
Together, let’s meditate and pray fervently. Remember not to grow weary of prayers. You can join me as we pray at Dawn too. I have come to realize that dawn prayers are efficient too and it does helps.
The last time someone approched me with this sentence was somewhere late last year. Sincerely, i think he had wanted us to be friends. The kind of friendship which could probably lead to something huh…i presume that is what you are thinking.
But please don’t get me wrong here. Not all approach with that intention. There are some who just admire us from afar, and would like to be friends and nothing more!
When we first met, i never asked you this kind of question because i don’t want the kind of circle where you will ask me to tell you about myself, as though we were in an interview. One principle i have learnt in life is to “let things happen naturally” it works better that way. If it is friendship, it should grow and blossoms by itself, One in which after getting to know each other better, Our best parts glow and bad parts go low, For some reasons, i kind of miss my circle of friends. It’s thursday guys! A little throwback at the unforgettable memories we created before the spread of this virus…
We think we have grown and for that matter do not have time for friends but that’s not true. Why? Because once you need help, once you feel lonely, once you need advice, once you need someone to share your happiness with, once you need a shoulder to cry on, you run back to those friends. Friends are like a life support if they are real.
My kind was in church. I fellowship with The Church of Christ. And not to say that i don’t have others outside the church though…
We aren’t always in touch, checking up on each other, bla bla bla… But when we meet, be sure to hear the sound of laughter, faces beaming with infectious smiles, planning of hangouts, sharing thoughts and ideas. It is always based on a friendship which doesn’t tear down, but rather builds up, One in which there’s freedom to fool and freedom to receive corrections for growth
The kind of friendship that shouldn’t be the “i lead and you follow” it should surely make a positive impact and contribution in our lives.
We are in difficult times and connecting with each other on social media is much easier. Not to make times like this boring and killing the vibe we have already…
1. Have you tried video calling? If you haven’t, please do. Check up on your friends by video calling them. It is fun! It could be your circle.
2. Tried texting them during the day to check up on them? Or maybe send a funny comment? Remember them of old times? sending them cute messages?
3. Times like this would mean starting all over again. Did you have a little misunderstanding with them? forget about the intensity of the issue and how it aggrevated into something worse. Send that inspiring and motivating text or call to motivate them! A friend needs you now.
4. We should yearn for a friendship which never ends because we help each other be fulfilled. A friend needs an idea to complete a task! If you don’t call or text now, that idea will never come to fruition.
5. It should be that our contributions to each other’s life is engineered by the Holy Spirit Himself. Are your conversations all about hanging out and shopping? Are you leaving “The God-Factor” out of your lives?
Today’s post is a wake-up call to all of us. Tell your ego not to interfere in this. Let’s do this together…allow a natural flow for starters and check up on old pals regularly. You may never know where, when or how. Don’t lose them before you try to cry, check up or blame yourself of not doing the checking.
I just checked on a friend and sent a word of motivation. Have you done that now?❤
Every picture on this blog today is a reminder that your friends appreciate you and want the world to know how special you are. You can also mention your friends in the comment session and leave a message for them. Friendship is just as beautiful as you are.
It was very peaceful and the whole area was somewhat or could be said a “ghost town” when i stepped out today. Lol…don’t get me wrong, i needed some cash today and i just needed to go to an ATM close by. The Mallam Junction i knew before, per my observation today was peaceful and less of human traffic plus traffic Jam too.
Mum was a bit worried though. But somehow, i needed my cash anyways. 🤷
Poco à poco, we’ll get there and fight this! We’re on the 10th Challenge guys… It’s been fun i must confess. And i am glad i keep reminding you “Time wasted can never be regained” through this challenge! It is never too late to create something worthwhile with the little time and days we’ve got. Remind yourself :
You are unique in your own way, even though this might sound a cliché to you. You can do better than your current state.
For some us, the pandemic would mean, Watching of movies, reading books, listening to music, playing of games, using social media to shake off boredom etc.
Gresham Machen says, “When any new fact enters the human mind it must proceed to make itself at home; it must proceed to introduce itself to the previous denizens of the house. That process of introduction of new facts is called thinking. And, contrary to what seems to be quite generally supposed, thinking cannot be avoided by the Christian man.”
Whether we are reflecting on a fact at any given moment or not, we are always thinking, and that thinking shapes us in a way.
So my question is “What are you watching currently?”
White Collar 2009, 6 seasons with almost 12-15 episodes. Though a very old movie, and you might probably not finding it interesting because it is not a “current trend” i will recommend White Collar to you; everyday and anyday!
Neal, a charming con artist, is finally caught by his nemesis, FBI agent Peter. But he teams up with Peter to assist the Feds in catching other elusive criminals in exchange for his freedom.
The swiftness, smartness and captivating characters in this drama series is one you will never miss out! Guys, this is no exaggeration; White Collar as Matt Bomber’s biggest input! It was phenomenal watching it and trust me full of suspense. I’m like “Oh wow…this is brilliance”
I’d love to know what you are also watching. Maybe recommend it to me😄
Remember to download White Collar. If you haven’t watched it yet. And if you are, engage me with a new series you are watching!
It’s the first day of the week. And we are still battling with the pandemic. I’m pretty sure and know that God is with his people and just like his words says, he will never leave us nor forsake us! We’re in this together as a country and we will surely overcome it!✌
Lockdown challenge is getting better each day! I’m sure you are creating something extraordinary and unique to show the world! Yasssss…that is the spirit!
Today is sunday, not much to do after service at home, family time with my extended crew😁.
So here is a scenario or an assumption! Or are you in one yourself?
So i love my readers and those who try to read some of my pieces even on a busy day. Your inputs and critiques have been tremendous! I appreciate. I decided to engage us in a “Relationship Talk” this evening!
A man who works in Tamale marries from Akosombo. The woman works in Akosombo and loves working there in a cooporate world.
After their marriage, the couple is in a delimma as to who should compromise and come live over. The woman loves working at Akosombo and the man loves working at Tamale!
What will you do if you were the woman?
Lockdown challenge 7
Let’s read answers from our Readers!
Jemy: I hate assumptions. Well, depending on their jobs, if it’s possible for one of them to seek transfer to join the other why not They knew this before deciding to marry. So they should have put all the necessary measures in place Well if it’s not possible to be at one place, one party can move to the other over the weekends
Efya: Please the woman has to join her husband no two ways about that. And she doesn’t have any special reasons to stay there and also love is about sacrifice so she should move pls.
Qwesi: look for another work in Akosombo or closer. Untile then i will be traveling every weekend if i can to see her and go back to tamale after. during my leave days i will come to akosombo.
Doris: if it a work that will demand my input and make me happy, i will stick married to him and visit on weekends. On the contrary, if it is the opposite, i will sacrifice.
Iggy: It’s all about the paper, if she earns more, I’ll compromise Exactly, the point is making live better, so no need for self centered projections But you need to salvage your relationship.. If we working farther apart wouldn’t jeopardize our marriage, fine.
Fred: He should do whatever the woman says because he’s not serious. He should have solved this before marrying Now de3 itz damage control. If none of dem wishes to move, dey should just settle for a long distance marriage Till one decides to move.
Wissy: Let’s come halfway to kumasi🤣🤣🤣 We’ll come to Nsawam🤣🤣🤣🤣 On a more serious note, we can always talk about it. Personally, I don’t intend to be married and live single😅 So, if I can come close to my wide, why not…there’s always a way out.
May: To me, they should run shift since none of them is willing to The woman goes to the man’s place for sometime, then vice versa.
Dave: First of all before he went to marry he knew there would be issues. Secondly, he can’t possibly convince his wife to move because women become comfortable and don’t want to move
Thirdly, he will have to choose what he loves more his job or his wife
Conclusion: If I were the man I’d just look for a job in or close to Akosombo to be closer to my wife 😂😂😂😂😂me too on there ooo
Ace: This should have been resolved even before the marriage took place. However, I’ll examine the chances of employment at Akosombo or Accra before deciding to move. Ah. You’re getting married, you have to discuss where ya’ll going to live together after marriage. You don’t wait after marriage. Then we’ll both live at our separateplaces and visit weekends Every decision in this scenario is going to be a tough one 🤷🏼♂️
Doris 2: Because l love my husband,l will join him at tamale.
Little cuz: Story of my life. Share the answers with me😁 I would have been married by now if I had an answer Its easier to say that you will both visit when you take your leave and during holidays Maintain constant communication. Take transfer when kids come into the picture
Prisy: The man should join me if he loves me And the work the man does was not stated If the man’s work fetch more money than mine then joining him won’t be bad.
Jen: They should decide and visit each other on weekends. Or better still ,the man should opt for a transfer to join the woman at Akosombo since that place is quite of a city than tamale.
Kusi: Interesting analogy 😊😊🤔🤔
Aaron: This is really dicey issue. In the first place this should have been discussed by the couple before marriage. And in this case there has to be a compromise by one party. Now it will easy for the woman to move because her profession is always on high demand, she will easily get a hospital to work in. For the man it depend the type of work he is into. He he is self employed then he can move his job the lady’s place but if not it will be difficult to get another job quickly.
Now my submission I personally think the lady should move to join the man because even with our normal church system when you marry you leave your church and join your husband it only in some few cases that the don’t do that. So they should apply that to this situation.
So the lady should move and join the man🙏🏽
Kae runner: his is a difficult question to answer But since the man has become head of the family, the woman has to compromise and go along with the man to Tamale… Tho it will be difficult for the womanbut with time she will be ok.
Kwame: if my company have a branch at Akosombo I will take a transfer But if not cmon she is a nurse she can be transferred anywhere.
Boom!♥️😂😂 interesting answers i must say. What do you also think about this scenario? Going through this same situation? Share your thoughts with me… I would love to hear them!