This is a short one. I would not like to go into details because I have come to embrace the fact that whatever life throws at us, having a thick skin to accommodate it heals. Guess what, growing up was hell already. All the hustle and bustle got me into a game of Suicide. I have tried reconsidering and facing life squarely. You know, sometimes we feel this is a face of life that will pass by. Other times, it feels like “You came into this world by a mistake”.
Crap! Who cares? If they did, they would have thought about it before uttering certain comments, they would have been more careful with their actions, they would have asked before judging, they would have thought of the pain and depressing moments you will go through. I have been accused of many things in my life but having a thick skin has never been one of those things. In fact, more often than not, I’ve been told that I’m just one of those who take what belongs to another, one of those who has no heart. I prefer to think of it as sensitive to the people around me, their needs and our shared goals.
That said, I’ve spent years trying to figure out how to develop a thicker skin. Years of wondering why a colleague, family member, trusted friend, an old friend, a church brother or sister, family relation, a boss, a supervisor, senior member, management, siblings will vilify you. It’s always tough dealing with this situation alone. It is when a trustee betrays you. You lose your sense of purpose, depression starts knocking on your door gradually. You start to lose your senses and then, death lays it’s icy hands on you.
I admire people who live above it; you know the ones – where criticism or abrasive comments leave nary a nicked or wounded ego. My heart goes out to all who have gone through this and those still going through this. We are strong and brave. Let’s continue to pray for strength to accommodate all these.
She touched them and they felt alive. I, on the other hand, felt ticklish. It was as if they were being caressed and going through a massage therapy. Relaxing as it felt, I closed my eyes and paid attention as she examined my breast; educating and asking relevant questions about my last menstrual period.
Today was a good day. I had a good laugh, an education on Breast Cancer and it’s Symptoms by a Senior Midwife. I’m skeptical when it comes to showing a part of me(my body). Therefore, I yearn to really take good care of myself and my body. At the clinic, I was received by a nurse and a midwife who examined by Breast.
Breast cancer awareness month is a yearly campaign that intend to educate people about the importance of early screening, test. The campaign starts on October 1 till 31st October. She explained the causes and highlighted salient Symptoms and effects of this Cancerous disease. Read more of Breast Cancer here.
It’s braless Tomorrow ladies! We are encouraged to forgo wearing a bra as a means to encourage breast cancer awareness. In view of this, the hashtag for tomorrow is #nobraday. However before you join the Campaign, please take a step to go for a free breast screening and join the campaigns train.
Encourage others to do same too. I went braless today and did my screening! I hope you do yours too. Let’s examine the Tatas. Breast Cancer is real!
The blogtober challenge is still on!!! Today is Day 9 and this is just a reminder of a sort. 23rd October, 2020 should be a holiday for you. I bring you one of the most talked about programme for book addicts and book lovers that happens every year.
Have you registered yet?
Do you want to meet other book lovers?
Do you need a particular book to read?
If the answer to these questions is ‘NO”, it’s not too late. I have good news for you. Goethe institut Ghana in collaboration with Readers Truss presents Book Date Night2020
A night where book lovers, book addicts and the like, come to network and discuss about books they have read and get books they would like to read. It’s happening live on Saturday, 23rd October, 2020. Come along with a fellow book lover for an amazing book date night.
It’s nice telling people who are doing well in their field or who inspire you, “I love what you do and I am a huge fan of you”. Today, the 7th Day of the blogtober challenge requires that I write about 4 bloggers(local or international) who are my favorite. I’m just a budding writer who is eager to learn from other good writers. I’m open to new ideas and I’d appreciate it a lot if writers would take it upon themselves to coach budding writers like myself, It would certainly mean a lot to us!
I follow a lot of blogs(hundreds) I must say. This I do to help me discover my own style of writing, appreciate bloggers and become better with each write-up I deliver. Frequently, I scroll through WordPress and bloglovin and only click the posts that interest me.
The bloggers below are the ones of whom I click on, each time they post. I call them “TEAM GHANA JOLLOF”(forgive me, I didn’t mean to whet your appetite this evening by the mere mention of “JOLLOF” but for the sake of these writers, kindly allow me to). They never leave me hanging and they certainly make blog world better for me. The best bloggers that keep me blogging. So I want to say, “Thank you for all that you do. Please know that there is always someone here who is not only feasting her eyes on your blog but in anticipation to read your best post. So keep inking”.
1. Maukeni Padiki Kodjo, now Mrs Maukeni Ribeiro, is one of my favorite. I encountered Keni at the Women’s Right Write (a writing Seminar) in 2017 at the University of Ghana, Legon. The seminar was an educative one organized by Rubbytalks in collaboration with 2eweboys on the theme, “Rewriting the Narrative About Ghanaian Women through literature”. After listening attentively to Keni’s pieces, I soliloquized, “Ei wei de3 y3 w)writers mu writers” To wit, “we really have writers in Ghana” This is not just an ordinary person. But one that will wow the critics to the core. (I’m not exaggerating). She was once adjudged the best blogger of the Ghana blogging and Social Media awards organized by Blogging Ghana Keni’s appearance on stage is friendly; no wonder she is a September baby 💜. You can visit her blog for amazing stories on www. Kenikodjo.com for more spicy ingredients and join her Telegram channel for more Kenikodjo.
2. As a writer, I know first-hand the need of having faithful readers lurking around your blog post and waiting patiently for your next post any time soon. I must confess that being part of the Heaven-Inspired Theatre team at Nrcoc made me witness how many admire Dr Michael Osei Agyapong who writes as Kwasi ‘Sei.
Though I believe in my ability to give you a best perspective of his writing style, I am quick to admit that I am not sure I will do as much justice to it as I would want to. He calls himself the creator and Purveyor of Snappy Stories.He is the winner of the Ananse Prize for Literature at the Ghana Writers’ Awards, 2016. Currently, he juggles writing and working as a Medical Doctor. He has staged some christian drama(s). One of which I helped as a stage manager at the Nrcoc. Kindly visit his blog eyestouchedbydew for more interesting read.
3. Her most recent post “You failed? so what, try again”. left me spell-bound. Josephine Amoako leaves me craving for more. I’m pretty sure most varied demographics also can’t wait for her weekly blog post. Visit her blog Joseyphina’s World and you will find interesting interactions, short stories, social issues and above all, christian literature. It was fascinating to see her read her articles during the Women’s Right Write Seminar.
4. Unvieling him would mean writing a whole thesis about who he is and his impeccable style. I have so much respect for Eric Korankye Nuamah. In terms of writing and editorial work, he is one of the best I have ever come across.
Personally, I worked under his tutelage during my National Service days at Parliament of Ghana. His wise counsel and guidance in terms of writing cannot be overemphasized. He is a Pro! I’m humbled to have learnt from his ways and I’m a huge fan. I encouraged myself to stay quiet in monitoring his post and learning on the low from afar, from his Before Breakfast Lessons to the end because I was bent on developing my writing skills. Visit his blog korankyenuamaheric’sblog for great pieces.
Yesterday was World boyfriend day and like many assume, a sophisticated, intelligent, classy, pretty and well-groomed lady could be in a relationship. Most guys will feel intimidated by these qualities. Personally, I find it a laughable issue. I mean why assume? I was however caught up in a heated debate some time ago on this issue. I concluded, “We can’t really change what people think”. Today, I want to tell you about my story and how it never ended. This relationship started 16 years ago. My dad made me develop a sudden interest and till date, I am still in this relationship. The chemistry we both have is indescribable. Not a day goes by without a phone call or a text message from this significant other. Ours is a kind of addiction I wouldn’t mind having for a very long time. We all need to have that special someone who would be there for us when needed and who would understand us without being judgemental.
Books can be our best friends for life, for all the right reasons. Good books enrich our mind and broaden our perspective towards life. What’s more, one can never feel lonely in the company of books. This is the Love of my life and my love story. You see the thing about this love is, I find solace and comfort in it. Just like our friends, they cheer up our mood, soothe the soul and make us laugh out loud.
For this reason I have decided to stay faithful in this marital Journey. The just ended Book Exchange Affair programme which was dubbed “Promoting a Good Reading Culture” made me realize how much books mean to people. So here is a list of books I will read in 2021.
Kenkey For Ewes and other very short stories was first published as an eBook by Flash Fiction Ghana in July, 2017. The flash fiction anthology, edited by A. A. Asiedu, D. H. Dzah and J. J. Johnson, features stories by young Ghanaian writers from across the country. This is an anthology of hope. Never have so young people captured the stories of our time the way this army of writers have immortalised. But beyond the greatness in the stories, Kenkey for Ewes guarantees one exhilarating fact: it is a great time to be a global citizen.
The second book is one that comes with a lot of drama and suspenseful juice.
Saturday’s Shadows is set in a West African country at the end of a 17 year military dictatorship era. It weaves and craves with the stories of four members of the Avoka household, where everybody is lurching toward self destruction. The father, Theo, is recruited to write the memoirs of the dictator who is now a turned president. Theo as a main character in this book loathes the president. According to the writer of this book, this story talks about sanity and madness.
After a sneak peek of the blurb, I must say, this “the Hairdresser of Harare” will be a ravishing one. This is a comic novel about the daily realities of life of a Zimbabwe hairdresser. The protagonist was the fussiest customer to ever grace a salon and she will not let any ordinary person touch her hair. The author narrates learning to be a jack of all trades and one of the main character depicts this.
The next book, Carmen, an author said, “it just increases my heartbeat as if I am prey, melts my insides and leaves me in anticipation for my first kiss” (sobs). I have met the author before, at the 2017 Women’s Right Write held at University of Ghana, Legon. I’m yet to read Unforgettable by Nesta Jojoe Erskine.
Selassie takes us on a journey of how sweet this marriage is going to be.”Padiki has been keeping a secret for years. This secret has slowly eaten away her joy and her chance for a real and true human connection.” After seeing Selassie Mensah at a Book Date organized by A lady who loves to read and Readers Truss, I could sense this is a real story she told from within. But who am I to make assumptions just like some guys who think most classy ladies are already in a relationship and they can’t propose love to them.
Padiki’s secret has turned her into a young woman full of regret and bitterness. When the cause of her bitterness arrives in town for his wedding, she makes it her goal to take revenge for all the times he hurt her. Will Padiki be able to overcome the bitterness that fills her heart? This is suspenseful and a delimma readers are to discover.
And just like Elixagyare said in his article“Let’s read 2021 away, adding value to ourselves for we know that reading maketh a man, or better still, reading maketh a man and a woman!”
So guys you see, I might be one of those ladies, but this significant other called “BOOKS” keep me busy all the time. It has now become my boyfriend. Unless of course, you want to be a usurper. I wouldn’t mind…
I never considered writing a review of anything, be it a movie or book but here I find myself at a task never thought of in my writing journey, so this is my first review- of course apart from the mundane drudgery of literature review in academic circles. I have in later times enjoyed the […]
Hi guys, I couldn’t write anything for today’s challenge. It’s rather unfortunate. My day has been rough and I have been moody today. However, I can’t possibly go back on my words.
I promised to provide you with contents from 1st October to 31st October right? So this blog post is a reblog from an impeccable writer Elixagyare (I have so much respect for). Please have a good read of his movie review! I bet you will love this. Kindly do well to download this Ghanaian-Nigerian Movie. It was worth my time.
At last! The weekend is finally here. Generally, Fridays are awesome and everyone loves Fridays. Well, apart from the fact that it ushers us into the weekend, when you can bid goodbye to the pressures of work and deadlines just to have fun.
It also comes with a perfect opportunity for reflections and a solitary life from all the noise. Isn’t that great? Talking about reflections, today started off pretty positive. I listened to a mindfulness audio on Steve Harvey show. It is the hardship of a black American single mum in South Central Los Angeles who single-handily raised her son. She got fired from five different jobs, she was broke and she was broken and then she got pregnant with her son unexpectedly.
At eight months, her son’s father went to prison. For two days she had to wrap her son in a towel because she was bankrupt in everything that was holding and keeping her where she was. I was taken aback after listening to how she survived it.
Through it all, she had faith and uttered these words.
“Mommy will never be this broke again. I want to transform your life because you didn’t ask to come into this chaos. If you are going to be convicted about something, you might have to go through some discomfort but if you just want to stay comfortable, why don’t you just relax where you are?”
So this morning I asked myself “Am I willing to reinvent who I am? Or am I ready to kill away procrastination, excuses, wallowing in self-pity, the tribulations, and storms of life, the blame game just like she said and did to find myself and achieve it big? Most of all, am I willing to keep this beautiful smile on when life hits me and rise above it?
When the tides turn quickly, as humans we need to remind ourselves of our past achievements and successes we have chalked. I rapidly remind myself of the past that made me smile when the present is blurry. I smile through it because I know moments like this are sure to come anytime soon. Today, 2nd October, being the second challenge of my blogtober challenge, is also World Smile Day. We have so many reasons to smile and be happy regardless of where we find ourselves or our situation.
As I type this message now, I have so many unread messages and deadlines I have to meet but this message can’t possibly be kept for another day.
I have 20 things that make me smile and this is the perfect time to do it.
1. Feeling at peace: Admittedly, I have always been a restless and anxious person. However, I get a refreshing moment within my spirit when I get to fast and pray about something. I have this strong desire to influence people in a positive way. I smile when I realize I am in safe hands with someone who loves the things of God and he or she wants to help me in that regard.
2. Feeling good about myself: The fact I look into the mirror and like what I see about myself is a real personal achievement for me.
3. Getting rid of the noise and going back to nature: I am not wild and bubbly when it comes to having fun. When it is beach or something so calming and invigorating about nature, find me. I personally crave for that a lot. It gives me peace.
4. Good times with good friends: I can’t wait to have a white wedding in church surrounded by my very good friends cheering me on and smiling. I can picture it already. I love my small circle of friends. They bring me joy and make me feel appreciative of myself.
5. Meeting strangers: just don’t force me into an acquaintance. Allow me to walk into a shop, the street, restaurant, places of interest, to meet someone new. You will be surprised when I finally get to experience this and get to know they exudes niceness and happiness, I will stick around forever.
6. Good food: My love for this delicacy is crazy. (Kenkey with fish and onion). Just don’t forget to add some shrimps.
7. Your ideas (thoughtful): I am easily moved by this trait. I know I can be very quiet sometimes. But just a thoughtful idea can make me smile and feel we are a team!
8. Good Movies: recommend a good movie for me and see if I won’t drool over it till the end of the year.
9. Photographers and Doctors: these two professions are my friends. I have come to love taking pictures. Most of my friends are either medical students or doctors. I love their company because they are sweet with their caring nature and soft-spoken. I kind of love the special treatment they give me whenever I call on them.
10. African Print: just gift me with this and I will be beaming with infectious smiles.
11. A good book: reading a good book is like getting a new best friend. In this, I get to connect with the characters, being swept away by a timeless love story. Books fill me with endless joy. I’m not a book addict though but there is nothing like coffee or a wine, being in bed with a good book! Such peace!
12. Hugs: let me wish we can do it forever. Hug someone and really connect to the heart level. Try it sometime.
13. My blog: this makes me smile. I love to write.
14. Heels: flat shoes, sandals, shoes, aren’t my most favorite. Heels make me look and feel smart.
15. Old friends and family: they bring out the best in me.
17. Good conversation: enlighten me with what you know and let me learn from you.
18. Light-colored night wears.
19. Compliment me on my bad day
20. Smiling makes me smile.
All it takes to make your day bright is to smile, whether someone gives it to you or not. Remember life is too short to wallow in self-pity and just like the single mother, you are your own rescue, no one is.
Rise up today, list a number of things that makes you smile and glow. Reflect on them and start your day with a bright and beautiful smile just like mine👇👇👇👇
Today, I give a shout out to all my readers in Ghana, United States, South Africa, Ukraine, United Kingdom and India. I have had the most readers from these countries this year and I am thankful.
Frankly, you are the reason I grab my phone to type my thoughts on issues and other matters even when I don’t feel like doing it. I actually love that you enjoy most of the post I publish here. Thank you for sticking with me in this blogging journey.
Months ago, we were stuck and everything- Jobs, schools, church, daily activities including the fun part of our lives as humans were halted. Serious as it looks like, it gave a lot of people ideas and new strategies as to what they can do to make life fun again. I took a break from work and had to travel back to Accra to observe the Lockdown. Jaded is just an understatement of how I felt.
All I did was devise my own means to shake off boredom till the Lockdown was over. Introvert as I am, (Mind you I am not saying I prefer this kind of life. I am just okay with enjoying my own company for some time. I am much productive this way) I had to plan and prepare a schedule that could mean I can still have fun while at home and adding some value to my life.
I am a firm believer of this, “Life is all about learning, relearning and unlearning”. The Lockdown was certainly the right time to do that. I did that with the help of a challenge thrown to me by a friend. You can read about how my Lockdown diaries went on here .
It’s a new month. Things are gradually going back to normalcy and we are back to work and still observing the measures put in place to avoid Covid-19. By the grace of God, I am alive and ready to wow you with something exciting and intriguing. The “blogtober“ challenge is a yearly challenge for African Content Creators that occurs in October. This is my first time participating in the challenge. This challenge is my escape from weary moments that may pop up. This challenge will mean I should produce contents for my cherished readers, engage my fellow bloggers, discover and find myself, and finally find more ideas with this beautiful gift.
This month looks a little different because I have set myself a couple of blogging goals and a number of things I would like to achieve by the end in the end. Apparently, a fellow blogger, Marietta MarieNoel Grant enjoyed my post on the lockdown diaries and threw the “blogtober” challenge to me. As usual, i asked influence my small circle to join me in this. Please check out these two Dave the blogger and Elixagyare blogs for exciting and great contents as we keep you posted on our very first blogtober challenge.
Happy new month to us all and please stay here for more on the blogtober Challenge Series from Poetess Akosua.
Are you participating in Blogtober this year or anything similar?
If you are let me know and leave your blogs in the comments I want to read them all!!
First lap of the Lockdown Challenge ends today! I’m thrilled we did this together and i must say i enjoyed every bit of the challenge. Some days were unplanned and some were scheduled.
You should see me in person Lol… No o i haven’t gained weight. Lol… There were days i had to go to bed without food. I definately did not skip breakfast. Lunch and supper were sometimes missed. I sort to water, veggies and fruits only. I also love the Consistency in putting up a write-up for my readers everyday! The ideas were definately from God. He is the best poet who wrote me.
To my readers who have been supportive and constant readers, guys i appreaciate and love you all. I can’t mention names…but you know yourselves. Keep reading more on poetessakosua.wordpress.com
Today is sunday!!!! As usual, let’s get into Matters of the ❤Heart.
What is your view or Take on this!
Below are some of the views from our ardent readers.
Kwesi:Good evening Akosua. It’s not exactly the case. Many of them change. Marriage is quite different and it presents different situations not known in dating We generally respond differently in marriage, but some degree of those habits may find its way subtly into marriage I doubt if they’re hidden oo. Sometimes we either don’t see clearly or don’t pay enough attention to them For instance some Akosua bi that I know won’t give you her Kenkey some. Like joke, like joke. She won’t even give you her drink some. Don’t be surprised if she holds back things in marriage, even when you need them badly as a husband. Me I didn’t say anything oo
Kwame: It depends. When you marry, you’ll see for yourself. A lot are hidden. Just be ready 😃😂. Some habits come in later after you are married. That was never shown by either parties during the ‘dating’ phase.
Ace:Most true. Or could change.
Kwame 2: I agree on it And it totally depends on the number of years dated. But some people actually act differently in Borge years.
Jul: Human beings don’t change so there is no way habits and attitude will change☺️
May:Its most at times likely to he same or worse than it use to be There is only 0.1% chances where attitudes and habits changes to be positive wen one gets married.
Dave:That’s true Habits are basically learned patterns and they aren’t easy to get rid of. And with attitudes staying with someone usually shapes your attitude and relationship with them so yeah. These two are likely to carry over into the early stages of marriage.
Fred:Yeah 94% possibility.
Dorkie❤: Depends on the parties involved…if you want to carry it to marriage, you will Personally, I think it’s a conscious effort. On the contrary, the individual can decide to stop that habit or attitude if it’s not pleasant to the other. After all, these are learned and can be unlearned.
Jackline: I support the statement. Especially on the part of the ladies, they’d still require the attention given them during dating. With regards to habits, if you call your partner by a pet name during dating and courtship, there’s no doubt that the pet name will be taken to the marital home. On the other hand, when your guy pampers, helps, gives you attention and talks to you in a lovely manner, he takes that sweet care to the marital home too. Again, if you’re gf prefers home made food to fast food, that is taken to the marital home too; nonetheless, if your gf prefers fast food to home made food, that too is taken to the marital home.
In brief, I support the statement that we transfer our dating and courtship habits to the marital home. There’s a saying in my language which means; you can’t stop what you’re used to and this is true about habits and attitude. It hardly, takes a lot to do away with them. My take.
Albert: I think it won’t be a problem, because by that time, they would be used to such attitudes and know how to tackle them. It helps the other partner in some sense….Maybe one sacrificed and developed a new habit just to make the other feel comfortable.
Eric:The choice of spouse is among the most important personal decisions most people ever make. While we can’t see into our romantic futures, the science of relationships does offer insight into the decision process.Exploring these findings can help suggest when the time is right, what partners should know in advance, what matters most in weighing the decision, and why we are drawn to the type of person we might spend the rest of our life with. But whether or not marriage makes sense ultimately depends on the characteristics of the individuals it would formally unite. Habit and attitudes should not be established during dating into marriage. Because after marriage things can change Successful dating is not a destination, but rather it is a journey. This journey can either continue as marriage or friendship. God will bring the right person into your life at the right time. Always believe that! If they are not there, God isn’t finished yet.
Cassey:with me saying not all habits. Some people change certain habit after marriage.
Okyere:Lynn, attitudes change as we grow. So a person portray a character today and changes tomorrow. Let me give you an example *A Lady in a relationship may work very hard to put a man’s home in order to prove that she is a married material. *A man, likewise, will go extral mile to provide for a Lady to prove (or if you like to show) that he is responsible and cares. But immediately they get married, then they begin to show their true colours. Lynn dear, we’re living in a pretentious world. A lot of people are living fake lifestyles, pretending to be who they are not.So when they finally settle down, then reality sets in. Then follows disappointment and regret.. However, there are few people who are genuine in character. Regrettably, such people normally do not meet good people. It’s very possible Lynn. But remember, trust once lost, is very difficult to regain. You can change only if your partner accepts you with your flaws. Sometimes before you start to reform, the marriage has already collapse. What I’m trying to say is that as much as possible, let people love you for who you really are. Because if you pretend to be who you are not with the aim of getting someone to love you, it’s very disastrous. People can go to extent of borrowing cars, money, clothes, accessories, etc, just to impress a partner. It’s serious oo dear If you know what people do for love errr. … So Lynn, genuine attitudes carried over into marriages is commendable. But I the attitude is bad or fake, then I will advice that the person changes before they tide the not. However, if you really love your partner, accept him or her with his/her flaws and help reform the person Time changes everything. With the right attitude, advice, love, guidance and encouragement, you can change a person. Lynn, sometimes err, the good in you could change somebody without your notice 😃😃😃I’m not a counsellor
Andy:Individual differences oooo Some marry n grow up n some marry and still be in dating style.
Interesting views from our readers. What do you also think of the above statement? Do you agree or disagree?
Let’s hear your views in the comment box below.. Have a good read of our readers and share your thoughts too.
First lap over!!💥💥💥 We did it!
As usual, please stay home! Take precautionary measures serious! Do check up on family and friends online 😍
The most simple things can make my day. Take for instance, a bottle of Red wine (non- alcoholic) please… and play me one of my favourite Soul or Rhythm and Blue (R&B) songs from the 1990’s.
Now, before i pen down a piece, my spirit should already be acclimatize to the environment that will bring out the flow of words…if not, i won’t gain that gratification i need. In so doing, MUSIC! Yes, MUSIC helps me. Basically, get all the “Boyz II Men, Lionel Richie, Barry White, Sam Cooke, Luther Vandross, Smokery, Robinson, Ray Charles, and my all time favourite! “Seal”😄
Don’t get me wrong, i love Gospel too.. Joe Mettle has won my heart over the years. When my muse haunts me to write, serenity and any Soul music bring out the spark!
Call me “Old School” “Colo” or whatever primitive name you would want to. But there is an undeniably fact and that is, Songs from the 1990’s are still the best and they still sound fresh.
Henry Olusegun Adeola Samuel known professionally as Seal, is a British musician, singer, and songwriter. He has sold over 20 million records worldwide, with his first international hit song, “Crazy“, released in 1991; his most celebrated song, “Kiss from a Rose“, was released in 1994. – Wikipedia.
The lyrics are not my main focus but his voice and the modulation in which he does it. He sings with passion. The music lovers will probably get a good description for Seal’s songs. It gets me you know…😁😁😁😁 and still does.
What is your all time favourite song? Tell me in the comment box and let’s have a chat.