MENTORSHIP 101…..

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MENTORSHIP 101…..

IT IS GOD WHO VALIDATES.

I may have learned this the hard way in my pursuit to find happiness, true love and peace. The first time someone used the word validate, actually got me pissed, got me searching for reasons and finally questioning every thing my worth. I vowed never to replace the synonym “approval” with “Validate” in my speech. Funny as it seems, I made a conscious effort to redirect my thinking…

Who validates?

I believe we have all had our moments where we have entertained certain thoughts and ideas like;

“If I could try to impress he/she the more, I could be loved”

“If I could tone down just a little bit, I could be accepted and I could even fit in perfectly”

Or, “If I could do things a little more carefully, walk on eggshells, not stepping on toes, I may not be judged”

All to seek the validation from Men, especially if they are important to us. We later come to realize that our best efforts may be appreciated like we wanted and that, could be very devastating.

Actually, trying to put confidence in man, trying to seek their validation, attention and approval all results in devastation. At least I have come to realise it’s always a dead-end. It leaves you broken, confused and troubled than you were.

In Jeremiah 17:5.


Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD.

We also know that blessed are those who trust in the Lord and they have made their Lord their hope and confidence.

Once we solely seek validation from any man at all, then we may need to rethink and redirect our minds and focus to God. He is the only one who validates, and he is the God that sees you so when others don’t, it’s okay. No matter who they are.

Remember, people are not your Creator! And whatever validation you are trying to seek from a person, know and understand it’s a fickle. It is what it is.

Listen, I, you, we, have a God who loves me, you, us deeply, accepts us totally and he is willing to hold your hands and go with you every step of the way. You are such a big deal to him and he cares about you so deeply more than you will ever know, more than you will ever comprehend.

I love the fact that God will NEVER change his mind about us. He is the only one who gives our sense of support and Validation!

We will find our Peace, Love, Worth, Approval and any other thing we are looking for from God.